Niels Teunis is an anthropologist and parent educator. He holds a Ph.D. in Anthropology from Northwestern University.
As an anthropologist, Niels has been a professional listener for over two decades. His experience in the US, Africa, Europe and Papua New Guinea honed his ability to listen to people from all walks of life. By listening long and deeply to people from across the globe, Niels has increased his ability to understand people’s positions from their own point of view.
As a parent educator, Niels teaches parents how to listen to their children. He shows time and again that you teach children to listen by listening to them. You teach children to respect you by respecting them.
As your mediator, Niels will begin with the same level of respect he expects all parents to have of their children. He will seek to understand your position from your perspective. This understanding lays the groundwork on which you can (re-)establish trust and co-create solutions to your conflict.
My Recent Book
Their Aggression Is Not Theirs: Energetic Boys at Play
In the Fall of 2015 I took 4 boys 4 days a week out of town into the wilds, as they called it. These chapters are reflections on that experience. I sent them out as daily emails and some have let me know that these were the favorite thing they go to read each day. That’s why I present these stories here for you. I had a lot of fun and I hope that these stories will give you joy too.
Here are a couple of responses to the book.
This isn’t a traditional parenting book, with references to studies or an academic tone, it is more like raw and authentic meditations on what it is like to spend time with boys at this age.
It is food for the parenting soul and has helped me to cultivate empathy for my six-year-old. I wouldn’t describe my little guy as an energetic boy (more of an introvert who loves legos) but the stories as still so relevant for me. Parenting through this phase is tough stuff and we need to find emotional nourishment wherever we can.
Niels is able to put down in words what we all know but won’t let ourselves fully act on. Here are some stories that make it so clear that our boys need our attention and understanding, that they need us to literally drop down to their level. I strongly recommend this book it made me laugh and cry; well worth the read.